Just wondering, how long did you and your husband live apart while working on things before you moved back in together? How did you go about moving back in? Did you ease into it slowly or did you just date for a while then when you were ready move back in together all at once?
We are certainly having our ups and downs. Mostly we keep having misunderstandings about when he is staying over, and it is driving me nuts! He will text at the last minute and say he is not coming home and that sort of thing. We are in the process of making some ground rules about this, so that I am not getting my expectations up only to be disappointed.
We are still at the point of needing lots of space apart. It seems like he gets tense sometimes when being around me, even though I am trying my best to make everything go smoothly. He will get grumpy and start nit-picking at me or finding faults in what I am doing. That is my (almost too late) cue from him that he needs space. How did you guys figure out the right balance of finding the space you need?
Thanks, -cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
