bent not broken

[LoisB]

Will,

I hear you putting a lot of thought and energy into what HE is thinking.

Is he thinking clearly?

What evidence do you have that shows he IS thinking clearly?

From what you have posted, I see your H as following the MLC script. At best, he is very depressed and looking for a solution in all the wrong places.

So, if he was someone else's hubby, what would tell them?

Would you tell them to base their truth, future, plans on what he thinks, says???

What do YOU think? What do YOU want?

To some extent, what he wants is just white noise right now. He may take more D action, he may not... In the end, though, it's on you because YOU are the sane one right now. Stay the sane one and stop basing your feelings on someone who isn't sane.

I only see it because I am, myself, an excellent follower of the insane thinking of my own H.

h likes to say 'we must keep moving forward' I want to ask him how is D moving forward? seems like moving backward to me.

h has said he has 'moved on' he has grown 'distant and apart'

BTW, I am reading from an email h sent to me back in july.

h says we were on parallel forward moving lanes in life.
h said he grew apart and it became the norm to go our separate ways... I want to say to h that I disagree. he chose to go his separate way.

h said he didn't experience my pain, he experienced his own.
This pain was brought on by him.

h says he wants to leave because he is not engaged or as comfortable as he should be. That is his issue, that is his doing really. that makes me sad for him.