bent not broken

[willbwell]

vets, feedback please. for the talk about "our Stuff"(h's words)
Can I ask him for a heads up? an agenda?
The last time when I asked h to talk , I let him know exactly what it was that I wanted to discuss,,, school schedule, spring break, summer plans. there was no R talk.

by asking him is this pressure?
Do I go in expecting the worst?
Hate negative thinking but need to prepare myself.
If it were not such a script!

I know to listen and validate. but if he is pushing the D, then there are things I want to know ( status of ow)

if he is pushing the D, then I need to put in place a visitation schedule and to be able to do so without sadness/emotion.
My conflict... doing visitation schedule not because it is right for me or kids but more so to say, well if you want D, then this is what D looks like. I feel anger even as I type it.

Like PM, I need to detox from him!

thoughts???