I do wonder why she can sometimes look into my eyes while talking, yet also spends a lot of time looking to the sides, or off in the distant.
This is because we MLCers can only handle so much intense emotions. Looking into the spouse's eyes is an intimate activity. When it becomes too much for us, we do the avoidance dance with you.
FY, where are things with you and W right now? Are you sharing the same bed? Do you have any light physical touches? Terms of endearment?