Barrybran II - Six Weeks In

[Barrybran]

Haha I wish I lived near a beach! I live about five hours from the nearest beach :p I did write list of activities and gave it to my wife but still haven't received any response. I told her about an idea I found about a 'date night jar' where both spouses write down ideas and draw an idea out of the jar for date night but again, no response. I really don't know how I'm going to tackle this as she admitted today that "planning is overrated" and I'm having trouble reading her moods at the moment. My best guess (and that's really all it is at the moment) is to memorise my list of activities and pull out the most appropriate one at the given moment.

Something I know about myself, and makes a lot of sense within the DB-sphere, is that I work best when I'm 'in the zone', that is, when I do things without thinking. It's automatic. Where I feel it fits with DB is that when you feel good about yourself you just run on autopilot and people flock to you. When you have doubts (as I do with unemployment) life seems to be a lot more work and has no flow to it which is exactly where I am. The other day when I suggested the shave and shower, they weren't good ideas but they were just off the top of my head, yes, even the shower. The next morning, my wife invited me into the shower and it turned into an hour and a half of alone time (thank you children, thank you) with a follow up later in the day. Things seem to have a way of working out when I can let go and just fly with whatever pops into my mind. It's a mental juggling act right now being aware of what my wife needs and wants, trying to subtly get more information out of her, reading her moods AND just letting all of it go, doing my own thing and going with the flow.

As for the ADD, it's definitely not something that's crossed my mind. What makes you suggest that?