my wife left, but still lives with me #2/continued

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That does seem like a better way to ask/get information/console AS. Will give it a try if the situation presents itself again.

She is still pretty wired. Tomorrow she leaves with her mom and brother to go do some snow carving for 3 days. she has done that at a competition level for the past 10 years. I always have inventory the exact same week, which is mandatory, so we are always separated. Maybe that break will do her good.

I have to admit, I have done some snooping. If there is an OM they don't communicate electronically. Which i find reassuring, but the whole snooping process is a killer. I have to nip it in the bud before it becomes an obsession. I constantly want to know/verify/reassure myself/exercise this form of 'control'.

This situation keeps the same level of suckiness (which isn't really a word), just changes the various aspects in which it [censored]!

5 years ago, during the snow carving competition is when she initiated an EA with an old boyfriend (lasted about 4 months). During my snooping I see she tried a $1.95 search for someone on peoplefinders.com. Is it the same guy? something more innocent? I don't know.

Do I carry on my snooping to determine what/who she is trying to accomplish/find? Is that important information to know? Or do i just let it go? There is no trust here. I am pretty sure I know the answers to my questions but just need some input from others to help me along my way.