I am not in any way telling you that your children shouldnt feel what they feel.

Your daughter (19) is old enough to decide for herself what she wants her relationship with her dad to be. It is theirs to forge or not.

Your job is to not get in the way of it. Whatever it is.

I know it is hard to think about how he has handled his relationship with them. But, thats on him. And whatever happens as a result, will be his, too.

I know you are working really hard, Heather. Good on you.