So I sent H text and email to tell him I know he's living in "__" (OW's home state). And I said it explains so much since there was no way for us to work on our marriage with a 3rd person in the picture. Unfortunately, I let my emotions get the best of me and told him in the same text that I will be contacting an attorney (who we both happen to know) to ask for a reference for a divorce attorney. He replied the next morning that we don't need an attorney and just need to agree on the paperwork and file.
The next morning I told him to send me an email and let me know what his terms would be and that I'll let him know.
Then, I sent him a text afterwards and asked why he gave up on us so quickly (he met OW in April & moved out in July) without even trying to work on us. And I asked if he'd be willing to completely end things there and move back (to home state) to give us a chance to work on "us". It gets worse...LOL As I was caught up in the emotions of it all (and didn't pause and read over the texts nor take a deep breath) I also told him that I love him and if he knows in his heart that I'm not the one for him, to let me know.
H did not respond.
BklynMom - I went to an Al-Anon meeting. I just wanted to let you know and tell you how much I appreciate you telling me about the meeting. It seems like a great group of genuine & caring people. I'm looking forward to going to my next meeting. In the meantime, I will read through some of the literature to help me keep my mind more focused on "ME" and not my husband. BTW- I love the simple but powerful messages on the 'Just For Today' bookmark. That will definitely be helpful to read and re-read...maybe a couple hundred times a day?! LOL
