Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[dingo]

With respect to the lawyer, you can't control what he does so don't worry about it. Easier said than done but it's all you can do.

With respect to the dinner, just make sure your actions don't come across as punishment or spiteful. Rather, make sure in your mind you aren't doing things for those reasons. You cannot control how your actions are perceived.

I can't tell you how lucky you are to have found this site so soon into your situation. Please please please take all the vets (of which I am not one :P) advice. It's also hard because a lot of it is counterintuitive but they know their business.