Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

You both are right. Getting the ball rolling myself would be a tactic to:
A) get him to realize what he's missing by not having me around
B) make it easier for myself. It's so hard coming home every day not knowing if today's "the day" that he is checking with a L, and to have to refrain from sharing my day with him, saying ILY, giving him a hug, avoiding anything that could cause resentment, etc. Like someone else mentioned in another thread, it's exhausting to be doing this day in and day out without any expectations or reciprocation.

But, you're right, there are many things I can do while still here. Right now H is in the kitchen struggling to figure out dinner since I made my own before he got home from work. Not out of spite, just figured "I'm hungry, and if H wasn't here I'd go ahead and eat right now, so that's what I will do."