Heck, I would rather improve myself than just have someone look at me with puppy dog eyes every time I talk about how H hurt me.
Oh my, I can't even tell you how much I hate that. H and I went to MC about 18 months ago, and that's all this woman did . . . the puppy dog eyes and, "oohhhh, I bet that really hurt you." Then I went to IC just after BD and the woman I went to just kept saying, "it's totally normal to feel really upset." My own mother kept giving me puppy dog eyes, and I told her to cut the crap.
Is part of the licensing exam for therapists to give their best sad eyes? Ugh. Does anyone really like that? I guess some people must. Look, if I want to see sad eyes, I can look at my own sad eyes in the mirror and save myself $140.
Oops, sorry for that rant. What I meant to say, 3, is that you are doing some good thinking about what you need in a C, and that's going to help you find the right one.
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It just kills me to know that if he could just get to a place where he wanted to try to start a new R we could really have something amazing.
I am right there with you, 3. The big BUT at the end is the same for both of us though. But our H's are too selfish and might I add, stupid, shortsighted and foolish to get there.
So how long is H staying at your house while you are still there? Is that uncomfortable for you?
I hope that everyone gets well too - you so need and deserve this time away!!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
