Update : my ss called. Hes 26 and lives with my IL. Has since he was 18 and left in a big huff. He was asking me how to do something with a PC he got 2nd hand to hook it up to wireless.n so I told him. Before we got off the phone inasked if we could set up a chacento get breakfast 1 time per month. I asked that he tell no one as he currently lives with W and I don't. Want any issues from this. He agreed. We have had a rough R and I know it always bothered W. His dad walked out on them b4 He was born and never looked back. Inraised him since he was 9. But he was a handful and I was niave. So very rocky R. In the fall before BD I reached out to him to clear the air. He toldnme it wasn't allnmy fault and he was sorry too. Then W and I split so that whole thing took a back seat to this.

I feel.stony enough noe to continue with the repair. I told him when we started our family 17 years ago that he was my child too. I reminded him of that today and he thanked me. This situation has been good fornmy growth in many ways. I'm not sure inwoild have taken this step without the growth ive gone thrum in the past couple months.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14