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So she has a play. Go to it to support her. Give her flowers, tell her she did a great job and that you are proud of her and then leave.

Act very cool.


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Y, MrBond is one of our best vets!!

He's gonna give you the no-nonsense, here it is, take it or leave it approach. I still learn from him, and im pretty far (over a year) into my sitch.

I'm glad we got you moved over, help is coming, but it all starts with you. Your honesty, with yourself, your willingness to change, and your ability to breathe/relax/be patient with the process. You can do it friend. Chillax

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Pufff what a hard time all this...its kind of amazing to see how a person is choosing her career instead of me..... I wish I can detach soon and start living my life without having her so present all the time. frown


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ye21, I thought I would come over and see your sitch. You are very lucky, you have been a lot of good info from Flyonthewall and Mr Bond. Continue on the road with Sandi's 37 rules. Work on you.

It is a hard question, but I think Flyonthewall asked it earlier, is there any possibility of an OM? Considering the W is involved with theatre. I don't want you to think even worse about the sitch, but nearly in all of the cases on this forum, separation involved the WAS having an OM/OW in their lives.


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Well I dont think so and besides that I dont know so, I know she was tired of fighting and if there is somebody else so far she didnt told me nothing. Once you choose the divorce road I dont know why she would not tell me if she has met somebody else.


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I have to ask. Are you in the U.S.? It was a little hard to read your posts. I'm not sure if we missed something.

You mentioned that you lied about things to her. What were they?


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Hey yes I am in the us, I lied to her about stuff like when I told her my boss was offering to promote me as a manager.....it wasnt true.
also I told her when I was 15 years old I was watching a cycling race and basically I went race with them...and they offered me a contract....which of course was a lie....


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Okay, now aside from that, what else have you lied to her about? She seems pretty angry for some reason. What else can you tell us about your marriage history?


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That's pretty much the more serious stuff, I also was kind of close in the communication with her, my wife its also a person obsessed with becoming an actress and she never wanted to negotiate for how long would she tried that for, she told me only that once she became an actress making money she would buy a house with me, so I couldn't stand that part of ok boy wait for me to make my dream come true and then I will get those things with you....
I guess we have different goals and now she needs also to see that and if those goals are more important than being in a relationship with me.


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I feel hopeless,I don't think she will reconsider this, she is looking for an apartment for helsef as she told me and I know this as a fact, she hasn't communicate with me, and I feel that the way this relationship finished is the way all my other ones finished too... always they took their things and left to never look back, I cant guarantee that this is what is gonna happen, but I am really feeling that this is what she has decided and there is no way back...
I am in so much pain and cant accept this, but at the end its her decision and I don't think she will change her mind.


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