goto, I hear you. The boundaries are hard. I want to keep things pleasant for my kids. I too feel like I am letting h cake -eat. I make no demands of h. we have no visitation schedule.
I too have been at this for 2 years.

I need to detach. I need to listen to what AS says too.
really wish I could move on.
hugs

M48 H50
M21 T26
S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old
PA confirmed 7/2012
H separates 9/2012
H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY
OW still in picture. h filed 10/13