Me 15 months on - standing - detaching

[hotwheelsaust]

Thanks AS, I have to act and think very carefully when it involves my sons. Both are quite fragile with emotions, and I think they are hearing so much from the family. So definitely don't need to hear anything more from me.
As was said earlier by Flyonthewall, if they want answers, then they will eventually ask.
I just finished a book I picked up at the library a few weeks ago: Parents who cheat by Ana Nogales. It was very enlightening about what the sons are going through. It talks about ways the kids not take sides, but deal with both parties. It also talks about how any marriage break-up affects all the kids, no matter what age they are.

ye21, thank you for joining in and having something to say. It is appreciated. You are right about the self confidence, it has gone. With so many people who were important to me, over the last 15 months constantly putting me down and continually telling me I am not doing anything right. It does simply get to you. It does make you feel, you cannot say or doing anything right.
I would like the chance to show empathy to the W, but at this time in life, I don't think she is prepared or wants to spend any time together, to allow that.
It is a guilt trip for her, and that is why we have had very little conversation and face to face time. She is feeling very guilty about it all.
I am trying to find that happy place where I can move on, but without the loss of hope or love for the W. Hopefully I will find it one day.