She has said that she cannot move forward in a MR with me until she is okay on her own
Maybe I missed it, but what does "okay on her own" mean?
I don't know that she entirely knows, so it's tough to accomplish a goal that is undefined. However, some things she has mentioned over time:
Financial independence - not having to count on me to be able live her life
Emotional independence - she says that her mood drives off of my mood. She says it's nothing I'm doing, it's just her habit/pattern. Another word for this could be "detachment".
"Get to a place where she doesn't rely on a hug from me to feel better"
She wants to feel like she has control of her own space and the confidence to speak up to me instead of biting her tongue
A direct quote from her (via text) from New Year's Eve, which when I said I couldn't do this anymore: "Just maybe we need to be ok on our own first, if that's possible. I and we can't go forward in any direction if we don't."
Blueprint or hook?
Hmmm.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
