" I have a very HIGH opinion of my W, which is why it shocks me when she acts in a manner like that because, before, she was loyal, moral, etc. "
Your W is still that woman, but you have to understand that this whole situation has changed her and allowed her to grow as well as you. She's not going to "snap back" to the woman you once knew. She has grown and changed from the experience and she's probably still processing what she went through.
Right now she probably needs more compassion and understanding from you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.