I think you mistake my comments - I have a very HIGH opinion of my W, which is why it shocks me when she acts in a manner like that because, before, she was loyal, moral, etc.
It is very helpful to hear from your perspective. I absolutely know that I contributed to part of the relationship problems; we just have a difference of opinion on whether marital problems justify an affair.
I think I always misunderstood detaching - I thought it was were you didn't really care about the spouse, but it seems to me its finding an understanding that you'll be OK. Doesn't mean it won't hurt!
I know the part I played - I don't re-list my faults every post, but maybe I should add it to my signature?
