Based on earlier today and that response i ask 'why are you angry with me'. She responds that she 'isn't angry with me...sigh'.
It's a loaded question, kind of like asking "what's wrong". It instantly puts the other person on the defensive (because the implication is something is "wrong" with THEM), so for them the safe answer is "nothing". Next time try and ask about her feelings instead. If it seems like she's mad or angry or something, just ask "how are you feeling?" She is much more likely to be honest if you do that. And if she says something like "angry" then you can validate by saying something like "I'm sorry you feel angry, do you want to talk about it?" If she says "no" then just say "I hope you feel better later, let me know if there's anything I can do." Eventually she'll feel "safe" in telling you more, and when she does then just listen and validate.
