One baby step at a time...

[2ndTimeHurt]

Hi melissa. You have no idea how much I appreciate any kind of response to my thread. I'm at that low point we all go through. It f*cking hurts!!!

I totally agree with taking her off that pedestal. The thing that worked for me last time was to take her off it by listing all her negative physical traits. The traits I accepted because I love her have become reasons for getting her off that damn pedestal. I'm a guy so I know how critical/shallow we can be sometimes. That's why listing physical traits helps me more as opposed to knowing she is a basket case right now. Guys can put up with crazy chicks who are hot(shallow I know). If I tell myself the reasons she's not hot, I dunno, I find comfort in that.

The dating thing was more meant for down the line. Sure ill go out and grab a coffee or drink if the situation presents itself. But I'm no rush to start a real relationship. Dating in the past was a huge way to detach for me. I waited close to 10 months before I tried dating again.

I want to find comfort somehow, some way knowing that their relationship won't last. Even her mother is upset with her decision to date. But that just fuels my ex more to prove her mom wrong. I'm mind reading there.

My mind is a mess now and need to find peace, and strength.