Hoping to still move forward, huge setback

[cbtdad]

Thanks LTH. Your insights are so helpful in my situation.
She is definitely showing by actions that he wants to be in this marriage.
You brought up a very good point in your post. I hadn't truly forgiven her for this months ago. The last month or so since we have stopped talking about it things have gotten so much better. In my mind I completely understand why this happened and what led to it. But you know what, I haven't verbalized that to her. I haven't told her that. I plan on doing that very soon. I believe she needs to hear it.
I get why it happened, I get why she needed to feel wanted by someone. It still hurts me to think about, but hurt and forgiving are two different things and I need to tell her that.