Took me a long time to know that was not true, but really played on the sense of worth. The WAS's words mean nothing and is only their issues they cannot accept and do this to validate themselves.
That right there is something that should not happen again, FM. There should not be a long time for you to know yourself.
And yes, that is exactly what it takes to be the bully toward you she is. It's her issues and she is taking her pain out on you by trying to hurt you. If she didn't, she'd have to admit her feelings have nothing to do with you. She would be the crazy one, even to her and she can't face that right now. She has to make it somebody's fault. You're it.
Be good to yourself, but be sure you don't lose you. Be sure to know you at all times. There should never be another time when somebody else can tell you about yourself and you wonder if it's true - you should know before they tell you
I'm saying this as a high-and-mighty kind of person FM. I made that mistake as well. It took me quite some time to work through exactly what you're working through.
She isn't the one that stopped. I just stopped listening. I didn't stop caring about her, but I did stop caring about what she says or does. There is a difference, FM. I hope the best for my ex. I always have and likely will. I won't be around to watch it though.
See what I'm saying?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
