Also, if he says "ok, I will stop" he needs to PROVE IT before you try to work on your M and go to counseling, otherwise, he will be back to her in no time.
I know someone said it seems the addiction would have worn off by now but I didn't find that to be true. It isn't addicting in the way a normal R is in the beginning, it is addicting in the fact that it allows you to escape reality and avoid the things you don't want to face/deal with so it lasts a lot longer. I think I was addicted 3-4 years and even when we stopped contact, I thought about him nonstop, looked for his car, hoped I would run into him, etc.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13