separated 6 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

Hi Bug! That's. A great post. Thank you! You are not kicking me while I'm down. I did give W power over that but should not have. Negative reinforcement year after year didn't help.

What did I do about it? I went out a GAL. I found friends who enjoyed the things I liked too. I also continued to stay active in my kids equestrian stuff, but during my time at shows with them, W was often distant or demeaning. I stopped going to shows with them after too many conversations about this with W.
I tried to take control of my life and during this quiet I certainly am using this gift to remember who I am and to remind myself never to give that person up again. No matter what comes.

I was enmeshed in my M and I lost myself. I thought if I just tried harder to be a better man a better H it'd. All work out. I was wrong.