Hello! I was conversing in this thread with Mach 1. Not sure if you're still around.
I've had some PC help in this new journey of realizing that I will be starting my new life outside the military without spouse support. It took from Feb 13 to Nov 13 to finally come to terms. S has a new man and hasn't been secretive about it. We are legally separated and have been since June 13. We're able to talk, but very briefly. Usually it's about the kids or if she needs something from me. Christmas was weird. My first Holiday season alone without family. However, I've got great friends, co-workers and leadership. I was given quite a few invitations to spend time with others. I didn't turn down any. It was just a peep into what my future will be like and I think I did well. Now, it's a new year and I made no resolutions...only goals! I set a goal to finish my professional certification (I'm an aircraft mechanic), start my Master's in May, and of course it goes without saying... focus on family. I'm ensuring that I search for jobs near my children so I can continue to be a part of their life.
OK. So that was a brief background. So here's my immediate dilemma:
I'm scheduled to visit my children (I'm in Turkey, S & children are in Denmark) next month. They have a 2 week school break. S has offered for me to stay in IL's flat since they are out of the country. This is a stone's throw from her flat. I agree that it would be too awkward staying at her place even if it was on the couch. I'm bringing some small gifts for the kids, and S asked if I would buy her 5 bottles of melatonin (about $30 purchase) and if I would, she would pick me up at the airport (a 1-hr trip one-way). I wasn't planning on her picking me up and am thinking this is going to be an awkward ride. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I give enough to her for support. And I feel it will be a very quiet ride. I still want to keep it civil. What do you think?
Thanks in advance to whoever helps me think this through!
