WH, only you know what you need to do. I posted the information for anyone who might need it. If you don't, I'm glad.
I needed to understand what happened to me so that I could recover. I also don't want to be a victim of abuse. The games my xh has played during the D are just more of the same. At first, I didn't understand how he couldn't try and hurt me for financial gain. Didn't he care enough about his own children? The answer is no. He wants their attention in a narcissistic way. He used them just like he used me. My kids are teenagers and figured out a long time ago that their dad is not who they thought. He's a manipulator. He won't have contact with them again unless he has had extensive therapy. That's not going to happen. He's more likely to commit suicide and leave a note blaming me. He's not well, but doesn't have the ability to see that. I'm just staying out of the way.
