Things have been going pretty well for us lately. I had been worrying about him backing off in the affection area.. but I feel better about everything now. He is starting to reach out a bit more now, initiating kissing and hugs and even the odd compliment. I have to say, it feels pretty strange after months without! I am starting to enjoy where we are at now. He is even back to teasing me and joking around with me, so I guess his playful side is back and to me it seems he is no longer depressed.
He seems a lot happier and he is now doing things that he used to enjoy doing, like playing piano and reading books. He has also been so involved with the kids lately, it is really making my heart melt to see him so involved with the kids. He is there at night to tuck them in and he picks them up from school. Most nights he has been helping, making us wonderful dinners and helping cart the kids to their lessons and activities.
The kids had a PA day off school on Friday and he took the day off to watch the kids. I heard all about their day afterwards.. he drove all around town, doing some clothes shopping for the kids, and they were so excited. In the past the burden of buying all of the kids clothes fell on me so to have him do it relieved some of the stress on me and it felt really good not to have to worry about it. Then, when I got home from work he was doing science experiments with them, as my daughter is really into science lately. My son was jumping up and down, so excited, they are really enjoying the time with their dad.
I can still remember back to the summer where he barely spoke to any of us, and when he did it was something negative that would make me feel awful, even though I was trying to hard. So things have gotten a lot better since then. I still do worry about the future, but I don't know how to explain it. I am not so much afraid of losing him anymore as I was during all of our limbo period where I didn't know if we were going to stay together or separate. I have accepted that things could go one way or another and I will be fine.
So for the past month we has still been living at his brother's apartment, and staying over the odd night, typically about 3 nights a week. We have been talking about him moving in. He has been staying over more lately, and hanging around lately doing family things.
We worked it out today that he would stay over every night except for Tuesdays and Fridays. For me, that seems perfect, as he will be home a lot more, yet we will still have a bit of freedom and space apart from each other. I am really enjoying having some time and space to myself. To me, having 2 nights to myself is perfect, gives me some breathing room. I jokingly said to him this morning, maybe that's what all marriages need.. a couple of evenings apart every week! lol... Seems to be a good plan for us right now anyhow.
Have a good week all! -cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
