Bright, thanks for stopping by. I know, it does sound like they were punishing him. I'm kinda at a loss with this one. I'm the one that suggested the scheduled visitation because he just didn't bother before. He also like to spring visits on me at the last minute.
The reality is that he brings baggage when he visits. A lot of hurt in those bags. And, otherwise, the girls are relatively happy with their lives. So, here comes this guy who hasn't made them a part of his life for nearly two years now and he expects to behave like it's same ol, same ol. It's just not.
He has lost two years of his kids' lives. The kids are mad as hell about his absence and abandonment. I think this was the first visit where I had an absolute HANDS OFF attitude. I let them behave as they chose. And, they did.
I hope, for their sake, that he walked away realizing how much damage has been done. I agree, he may choose to retreat further. Sadly, I can't control this. I've cleaned up so many of his messes. I've tried for months and months to make him understand how he is losing is kids...he has chosen to ignore me and blame me instead of making any real effort.
In other news...
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
