Well, I would have to agree then....if you are comfortable and she is the one that wants out she should move out of at least the bedroom as a minimum.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
She is irritated! She about bit my head off when I changed my mind and wanted a few chicken nuggets cooked for me while she was making those for the kids. So i asked her what was wrong and she said 'us'. I then asked what about 'us' and she said 'that is a big enough thing, us'.
She had enough stress in her voice........I just left it at that! Of course, if she wants to talk further she can, otherwise my lips are sealed on this one.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
She is irritated! She had enough stress in her voice........
Mine is too and has been for a couple weeks now. Almost anything I say or do she seems irritated with. I asked what was wrong too and she said nothing. I then said You seem mad about something. Then I got the rant of how selfish I am and my new favorite (even just the way your standing there)
'm being cool, calm, patient, and trying to show honor and integrity. But the last few days have been anger city
I read somewhere on this board that this is normal and things are likely to get worse before they get better. One theory with WAS being bitter/angry towards LBS is they are frustrated that after all this time we are finally making positive changes. Changes they wish would have happened long ago.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
That could be part of her irritation. 'why is he changing now'. Maybe they don't like the answer to that question....'because i never f'ing brought it up these past months cause i have been too busy planning my exit'
She went to bed early with one of the kids. We occasionaly let one of the little ones climb in with us if we go to bed around the same time they do. Then the spouse who stays up later moves the kids to their bed when they go to bed.
So maybe she went to bed but will come out talking after the little one goes to sleep. However, she is literally one of the most stubborn and 'strong' women i have ever known.....so most likely she will just go to sleep. I say 'strong' because while it may seem that way, it is possible that she is just really too weak to ask for help.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
Perhaps today my wife isn't irritated with my presence. Perhaps she is off being sneaky! Looking on her iphone for ways to poison her husband and get away with it Perhaps looking for legal ways to get me kicked out of the house..... Perhaps texting with her friends about how i am such a lame spouse and egads how she is done! Or maybe she has totally changed her mind and looking for venues in which we can renew our vows
See, speculation, presumption, concerning myself with her mind set, gets me all over the chart. And to boot, I bet none of those ideas are really what she is thinking. More proof of how detaching is required..........
this is really good stuff here and SO TRUE. I think and say those same thing to myself all the time. Then I'll finally tell myself to stop. Even though it's easier said than done. We have to Detach. And I mean fully DETACH.
Now the question is.... ... How do we effectively DETACH when we are still living together.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
