On to Divorce and still litigating...new life.

[FloydMan]

Thanks dxw .... Not sure I have done it all right but I get the appropriate learning, reminders and the 2x4's once in a while from amazing people on this board and from close friends and family and IC. It is about moving on, knowing who we are as genuine, caring people and never letting go of that but letting go of those that bring us down and hurt us. It is a looooong process especially when they drag matters longer through bad decisions, spite and acrimony. 2014 is definitely the year to fully move on. I start a new job tomorrow that is a better opportunity and step up from the role I just resigned from to take this. It was nice to be recruited pretty hard and feel wanted, trusted and relied upon for this senior role from people who know me in the business. My self esteem had been crushed and felt through my M failure and reminders from exW that is was all my fault that I was worthless. Took me a long time to know that was not true, but really played on the sense of worth. The WAS's words mean nothing and is only their issues they cannot accept and do this to validate themselves. I went on a date last week with someone (she asked me) that I have known since high-school. I liked this girl all through HS and University years but never made a move. Wasn't sure how it went last week....she knows i always liked her. She loves sports, especially hockey and baseball! She still looks stunning, and we had some good laughs, reminiscing and reconnecting from years ago. Today she asked me to go out again for dinner and a show. I guess it went well. Oddly, she knows my ExW ( through me but not spoken to her in 3 years ) and made a comment over dinner last week she thinks my exW is messed up and a fool. Life is funny. Can't get my hopes up, but ideally she cares more than just hanging out. We'll see. 2nd Date will be Feb 1.