maybe a bit off the edge?

[dingo]

Is she unsure of what she wants? How do I know when she is sure? When she starts taking actions? She's moved out, been hanging out with me less and less, we haven't hung out together with family/friends in a very long time. Feels like it's been a slow bleed.

She at least seems convinced that OM is more compatible with her than I am and she is willing to end the marriage for that relationship - or at least says that she is. This has been the case all year. She has never been able to give him up.

I am in a lot of pain right now. A few days ago we were talking about going away for a weekend or going hiking. Today when I asked her about the things we used to do together, she says she doesn't want to do those things with me anymore. Despite the pain, I don't know if I can deny things any longer. Regardless of how she may feel for me, it's not enough to break her from the OM. She talked about wanting a family today and how her best chance is with him.

To answer the rest bug, I don't plan to do anything right now. I will be silent and give her the two weeks (again, she doesn't feel like she needs them and is just doing it to prove to me that this is what she really wants). I am not going to call lawyers or realtors. I am going to start to lessen my hope though. I know what I want. To be in a relationship that's mutually beneficial to both people. Where we care about each other and meet each others needs. I stayed in this because I was sure that she just needed time to figure out that she wanted to be with me. I think I need to consider that time has helped her figure out that she doesn't want to be with me.