We are back on the downswing. W called me this morning to ask if we could meet up and talk. I told her I wasn't really ready to talk about things yet and she said she came to a decision and is ready to get D. So it's a complete 180 from where we were just a week ago or even a few days ago.
After she said that, i agreed to talk in person and went over to her place. As much as I hate to admit it, she seemed very business like and did not waver from her decision. She said she was tired of being in limbo and wanted to pursue a relationship with the OM. She's just not willing to give that up. I proposed the take it slowly/1 date per week thing and she wasn't interested. Said she tried that for the past 2 weeks and it didnt change her feelings at all.
She seems convicted and in the grand scheme of things, it seems our situation has been moving this way for a while. Yes there have been ttimes where she's 'come back to me' but they haven't been very committed or convincing. She eventually did move out and since then, we have been hanging out even less and drifting further apart it sseems. The OM is part of her circle of friends so I am sure it's easy and fun all the time.
The only semi - positive thing is that she agreed to not move forward with anything until Feb 1. Supposedly so that she could prove to me that this is what she really wants and isn't just an emotional decision. However, I think I do already believe that she will stick to this decision and I need to prepare myself to be ok with it.
Me:38 W:39 No Children BD: 5/13 EA/PA Confirmed: 7/13 W Moved out 12/13