my wife left, but still lives with me

[FloydMan]

I think the same beds is making it even tougher. Either get close, or separate sleeping arrangements. As mentioned, this could have legal implications for establishing valuation date for separating finances. She could be running up debt that you will also be on the hook for. We were in the same bed for a week after separating. My IC and my family doctor said this was very unhealthy for the mind and stress on the body. It is not fair.
I probably did not handle it well, but made a move and she said 'no'!. So I said we cannot be in the same bed anymore and told her what my IC and doc said. I went to sleep on the couch and she pushed past me and plunked down on the bed and said she would be the one to change sleeping spot (almost martyr-like). It was so stupid. For two weeks I kept offering and implored her to take the master bedroom and I set up the guest room. She kept going to the guest room and refused to leave it saying she never wants our bed again. (btw-later in litigation for assets she demanded to have the master bed). Anyway, she kept coming into the bathroom in the mornings when I was showering and changing. She believed this was acceptable stating 'it's different for men'. She even commented 2 times I looked good (undressed). How to mess with a head man. I asked her to stop this and give me privacy if she had it. 2 months later she accused me of kicking her out of the master BR. Can't win.
Bottom line pal, either you get close and reconnect, or discuss separate sleeping arrangements. This is driving you nuts. Anyone else with suggestions on how TS can make this transition smother than mine? Or, should he stay and hope for the best?