my wife left, but still lives with me

[KGirl]

tough spot - I'm newish to the board but have been following your thread because I can relate to your situation. My H told me right before the holidays in no uncertain terms that he was done and that there was nothing that would change things, but in the past two weeks has made no efforts/conversations towards either direction. No talk or action towards D or moving out (hasn't even contacted a L, because he agreed to talk with me first before he does it so we could discuss what type of D proceedings we want), but no interest in working on things either. We just continue to live like we used to except don't sleep in the same room or really go places together except errands. It's definitely walking on eggshells and like you I'm nervous everyday about whether or not today is going to be the day he says he's called a L. Like ScottCat said, each day H goes without mentioning D or anything related I consider it a small success, and I don't bring it up as much as I'd like to ask "what the **** is going on?!". Sometimes I wonder if he forgot he ever said that, but then something little will happen that makes me think he definitely hasn't forgotten.

Like you've prob. read elsewhere, all we can really do is work on ourselves so that no matter what happens, we're in a good place. And hopefully, our H/W's will take notice, but if not, we did what we could. That's what I keep telling myself, anyway!