I doubt it would have been anything that helped, FM.
There was a time I felt as you did to a degree. I wondered if I had done something different or if I hadn't loved her enough or... Truth is, I have nothing I need to feel any regret for. I wouldn't change the things I did or did not do. That by itself is incredibly hard - to have the consequence without having done the crime, right?
It's part of the risk of loving someone, though.
I know it was harder to sort out feelings while she was around. Even after she left and remarried, she wouldn't quite go away That's harder because of the distractions.
But it comes down to her choice. Her belief that it's what she needs and wants. Her journey in life. It wasn't something I did or didn't do. Strictly her choice.
I used to joke that I should have done some of those things she accused me of. I don't joke about that any longer. I know better
Wish her the best, FM. If her friends are seeing such things, and you're seeing them, and others are seeing them - but she doesn't? Wish her the best and leave her to it, my friend. She's going to eventually need it.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
That's harder because of the distractions. 