I have decided that I would have to see some movement on her part to get the help she needs to working on her issues before I would return to a full married relationship with her. Until then I will continue to work on myself and my relationship with my daughters.
This is good as far as it goes. What does "some movement on her part" mean? When you set a boundary like that it should be pretty specific. There should be no question on either side what movement means.
Does she know your boundary?
About the dating site, why is your profile still up if you're working on your M? I don't think you can have a foot in both camps, you're either in or out.
Do you think you could have a healthy R with anyone right now?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
