Me 15 months on - standing - detaching

[hotwheelsaust]

So my question, especially to the vets. How do I deal with that attitude of being selfish over the splitting of assets (according to MIL) with regards to my sons and the MIL belief that they think I am selfish as well?
1. Do I ignore the MIL and wait for if/when the sons might ask me about the splitting of assets?
2. Do I actually ask them what they think? How should I put that question to them? And this is where I need help. How do I discuss this in a way that is not overbearing to them. Remember I have been told that they don't even like discussing anything about this sitch, and they certainly don't ask me anything.
3. Do I speak to the W and ask why the MIL and maybe sons feel this way, when all I have done is agree to what she wants/wanted?
4. Continue on my path of trying to improve and say nothing to no one?

ps: I did just text the sons saying I hope they had a great weekend and both replied positively.