Don't know. Grew up in a crowded house perhaps. Lots of friends and family through growing up. Usually had someone. 17 years married and kids for 15...just conditioned through life that way I guess. Fortunate for all that, perhaps that hurts more when there is loss and loneliness.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Might be something to consider. To figure out why being alone is difficult. There may be more to that. Maybe not, but it seems that being alone is really not a bad thing at times in our lives
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Well, my L spoke to her L this morning and my offer to settle was rejected. Looks like trial bound which could take up to a year. She wants me to pay for her bmw. Ummmmmmm.....no. I had already paid the down payment and 11 months of the loan. Plus plus plus. She makes about the same as me. The trauma she caused me cost my job. She wants half my severance. Make this go away....please!!!!
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
In truth, your reaction to her trauma caused it. There's a difference
I hope it ends soon, FM. I really do. She's toxic to you without a doubt.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
If you break a pianists fingers, they can't perform. If you break the legs of an athlete, they can't play. She broke my spirit and my ability to think and perform for a time. Still not at my A game. Abuse is abuse. Anyone would have reacted the way I did .... Or worse. That I have been assured of. Intentional infliction of mental suffering is abuse. The sordid details of what I found out about my exW, even beyond the A is something that most humans would not cope with. Now because exposed, I am enemy # 1. She is not right.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
L says D should be final in couple weeks. That made me sad today and regretful. Too much thinking. Litigation will be ongoing to settle remaining issue.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
And it's normal to feel a little sad. Not sure why the regret though. Why the regret? Something you did or just in general that it signals the end?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
