I'm sorry your going thru this, but lets get you moved to the proper spot to get you some help.
Repost in the "Newcomers" section, after your post has been started there, link back to this thread so people see that you moved.
This area is for the spouses who WALKED away, so it doesn't get much action, you'll end up talking to yourself.
Try to keep posting in just the new thread you start and stay with it, you'll get a LOT more help there.
I just want you to understand, for now, that a lot of what your wife is saying is what we all "script", like they're following a role. They don't even realize they're doing it. We need to get you the tools to understand how it all works, and what you need to do for yourself right now.
If your on moderation still, post on other ppl's threads, read up as much as you can so you understand what your up against. And others will chime in on your thread. Moderation ends fast if you posting enough. In the new thread I want you to be as detailed as possible on why you think things have happened. No detail to small, it will help us give you better advice.
AND GET THE BOOK DIVORCE REMEDY, it will help save you, I promise.