One baby step at a time...

[2ndTimeHurt]

"Your fiancee's friend who wanted to leave his wife only after 6 months of marriage. Your post said she was very upset and disgusted and was planning to confront him about it. How did that turn out? Did she have an epiphany?"

Oh right, her friend... No epiphany. She's like that though, can't see her own situation when she's in it. She hasn't quite developed the observer mentality. She confronted him and told him what she thought, but I haven't heard much about it since I've been dim.



So last night and this morning were small baby steps. I picked her up from work last night and dropped my son off at her place. She invited me up and we had a small dinner together which was a nice thing for her to offer me. Normally I would've stayed as long as possible but I told her I was meeting up with an old highschool buddy. 180 for me.

This morning I picked my son up and offered to drive her to work. Partly because I was a bit late and I felt bad that she might miss her bus because of me. She was very upbeat and happy and we shared a few laughs. I did a few more 180's. normally I would say things that would prompt her in becoming defensive which often times would lead to arguments. Example. She forgot her precious phone at home on the way to work. Normally I'd say something like forget about it or I'd give a sarcastic comment about how precious her phone is. Instead I said, it really s*cks when you think you have everything and then forget something. I just let her vent the whole way back to her place. She found her phone and all was fine. There were 2 other times on the way to work which I diffused a potential argument.

After I dropped her off she smiled and said thanks for the adventure.

Anyway, baby steps...