One year in but a newbie

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You've done some work, and I like and understand your last sentence above.

Your current R with your W isn't such that you'll be able to talk to her about her illness. This is her path to walk. You've said your piece, now leave it.

I must have missed in your earlier posts the issues with alcohol. That's a real game changer and adds yet another layer of complexity.

These ^^^ are all her issues. You have to focus on you. Google Depression Fallout, it might be of some help.