I agree that you are doing very well...with some minor backslides, nothing really major.
My only real concern are your 180's....They seem a lot more wife focused than B focused.
-You are taking more initiative because she wanted it -You went out socializing because she wanted it -You are changing things intimately because she wanted it
Now while some of that is being aware of her wants....I don't see a lot of self induced change to better yourself.
One thing I have learned in life and personal change is it is like being an addict. An addict won't end their addiction because somebody told them to.....when that happens it almost always fails. Now when an addict wants to end their addiction, the success levels go through the roof.
You change yourself because you want to, not because your wife wants you to. That way it sticks and old ruts aren't revisited.
