This isn't a sprint....It is a long walk of constant change. Use your time as a gift to change yourself.
You are getting overly hooked on her actions...I know it is tough. In a way, you are kinda like a little sad puppy. Your wife has stated clearly that your procrastination and initiative are issues for her. You sent the list of things to do...not bad, but probably not what she is looking for. A better approach might have been instead of sending a list stating.....I would like to wrestle croc's someday....act on it and say "It is a beautiful day outside and there is a croc down in the river, what do you think about going down there and wrestling him?".
“What you do is what matters, not what you think or say or plan.”
How is the job hunt going?
As for the shower and shaving.....I think you pushed the intimate envelope a little there. While ML is pretty intimate, for a lot of people shaving or showering is a whole other level of intimacy. While I applaud your initiative, I kinda feel this was the wrong place for it. Kind of like like learning to drive....You went right from not knowing how to let's jump into a race car......You missed a few baby steps LOL
As for the friends....You at least got up and started moving towards the hall. Why don't you take it a step further and see if the husband want's to go do something? Not that would be 180 for you.
