My coach also said to disregard trying to diagnose the problem- it doesn't matter.
That's absolutely correct, the only reason we sometimes explore that is because MLC can take much longer to resolve than WAS. But yes, the DB'ing approach is the same. And it is very hard to diagnose anyway, because all WAS's have shades of MLC and vice versa.
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DB coach agreed my 180's have to include affection- it is his LL. Period.
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I have decided I am not initiating contact any more, even though he said he wants to. Too bad, buster!
The above two comments seem to be at odds. Showing affection is a form of pursuit, which normally isn't advised but may be appropriate in your case given your coach's comments. But can you explain how you're showing affection while also not initiating any contact?
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I cycle through emotions rapidly right now, I am extremely angry tonight.
Totally normal part of the process. You're grieving the loss of your M and the H you knew. You'll cycle through all kinds of emotions. Don't try to fight them or push them away because they just come back double or triple later. Just process them, let them roll through. If you like to read then I suggest The Happiness Trap, it really helped me understand and process my emotions.
