separated 6 weeks still on the journey

[paul19510]

Hi ben, the righteous indignation part is starting to sink in. I really wish shenwoulddnt even come around. I don't like hear her truck idling in my driveway. She just pulls away without talking anyway. She basically blew me off for a lot the M and I hung in there anyway. I kept thinking if I were just a better guy she'd. Love me. I kept buying more junk with her, barns horses trucks and trailers. It'd sooth her for a while then shed go back to being cold. If you read no more mister nice guy you see that this practice unknowingly is passive manipulation.

....if I give you all this stuff you'll. Love me and my life will be wonderful. This creates resentment and disrespect instead. Now when I try to set limits she acts like angry child. I made a real mess. Its not that she
wasn't cold...she is. but, I also didn't manage my R with her in a productive way.