Sorry that you find yourself on here. You won't find a better group of individuals here to help you try and get your M on track.
You mentioned "temper" issues. what were they? How long have you been out of a job? Could it be that your W felt overwhelmed about being the provider? Anything about your marital history will help.
MrBond, Thanks for the welcome, My temper issues are mostly that I sometimes yell when the children are misbehaving, Ive certainly never yelled at my wife, nor have a threatened anyone or even spanked the children, but I do yell sometimes, and I lecture a lot, when the kids arent behaving as I think they should. My standards on this may be to high, or at east higher than my wifes are.
My being a stay at home/homeschooling dad was a choice my wife and I made back before my 1st child was born 9 years ago. As far as I know she doesn't have an issue with it, but then I didn't know she had any issues, so it is a possibility. I have been considering this as one possibility during my reflections the past several weeks.
