I could be wrong - but your W sounds very similar if you substitute space for divorce. She wants you, the comfort of you, enjoys the hugs and the closeness, but thinks she's still good enough on her own.
They do sound very familiar, but one difference is that last part. I don't think my XW thinks she is good enough on her own. That's where she's trying to get, but can't seem to.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
