I have had a consultation with a lawyer and his response is that there's nothing I can do about it, for the reasons you mentioned. You can't fight it. But if I say no, can the judge ask us to take mediation, order us to try separation first, or does my no (with a yes from H) have absolutely no value?
Me:28 H:30 D:3 M:6.5 T:7.5 BD: 10-27-13 H moved out: 11-01-13 Handling other paperwork before petition is to be filed.