Thank you Paul and AnotherStander. Yes, it is tricky and I only can do what I can on my side. Right now I feel H is enjoying current situation. He no longer takes care of kids in the morning, usually morning time is the toughest because the kids are more fuzzy. He only takes care of them whenever he wants in the evening time. But I can't stop him from coming back home since he's still paying the mortgage. He claims it is still his house as well. Another option is that H suggested to take the kids to his place three days a week. In that way he doesn't need to come back home any more, but he will be forced to spend more time with the kids. But I don't like the idea because I will not see my kids three days a week. I'm afraid that it is not goods for the kids. They will eat more junk foods, watch more Ipad, do less homework, and get less sleep as well. It will take about 20-30 minutes from his place to school. And I will miss them so much. It is a dilemma and not easy to balance everything. Maybe I am concerned too much?
M 18 yrs 5 & 7 yrs old kids H DB in 4/2013 H moved out in 11/2013
