Final phase of losing wife?

[FloydMan]

Fully agree wit AS here. I made each of these mistakes. The only difference was on the family gatherings ( 2 of them on the first month and a half) it was W who pushed me to go but not say anything and act normal. That was still a mistake. It was awkward and I was uncomfortable. I later was told by her it was because while her sisters etc knew, she had not yet told her parents. I felt like a fool and assumed it was because she was not certain about her decision. Used in a sense to protect herself. Very manipulative. After month 3 she finally told her parents and they freaked on her, and pressured her. It only made it worse and more anger directed my way because they love me.
Your W will be angry if you talk to them about sitch.
Her family will indeed support her...family will always support. Last thing you need is being seen as turning family against her. My exW tried to turn my family against me, and boy did that backfire....they absolutely detest her now. They thought that was low.
Maybe go out another time with nephew to celebrate bday. It should be about that anyway.